Scruffy guys dating
There’s a lot of debate about building attraction when it comes to dating.
One of the perennial debates is whether looks make a bigger difference than, say, one’s personality. Star Trek debates as both sides try to convince the rest of the world that the other are shallow homonculi or people deluding themselves about their chances. It’s a generally accepted truth that people who are conventionally physically attractive have an advantage when it comes to dating.
Because they’re good looking, they’re seen as being more trustworthy, kinder and smarter – all very attractive traits to have.
And by virtue of being more attractive, they tend to have more attractive girlfriends and wives – after all, people tend to date other people at their “level” of attractiveness, no?
which is precisely where that “uniqueness” factor comes in.
Someone – many people, really – may think that Channing Tatum is good looking but dull as a brick, while Jonah Hill can consistently make her laugh and feel good about herself.
We found that consensus dropped and uniqueness increased as these students got to know one another over time.
After three months, uniqueness dominated consensus for all desirable qualities: attractiveness, vitality, warmth, potential for success and even the ability to provide a satisfying romantic relationship.
It becomes preferable to you because it’s familiar.So if you’re not the best looking man around, let’s talk a little about how one goes about building attraction over time.