The queer men and women I spoke to had never been given the excuse of intimidation as the reason why they weren’t finding dates (though, admittedly, my findings are 100% anecdotal).
I’d ask my date a lot of questions about his life, so that I wasn’t talking about my job or my studio apartment all that much.
Basically, it seemed to me that if a woman is better than a man she’s dating in any aspect of her life, she’s automatically cast as “too intimidating.”I was immediately pissed, because a lot of the characteristics that men evidently considered intimidating were fundamental parts of me.
I’ve always been incredibly driven in my career, and I consider myself moderately successful.
A few weeks ago, I posted a survey to my Twitter, asking my followers what they wanted to see in this column.
(It’s still live, so you can feel free to add in your two cents!
) I got a whole slew of responses, but versions of the same question kept popping up over and over again: I myself have been called intimidating a lot throughout my life.