Many girls these days don’t seem to be pursuing high school relationships.
That first crush, that first kiss, that first real boyfriend or girlfriend. But there’s a strange phenomenon happening around here.
This change has been gradual, but the influence of smartphones and digital media is clear — in a study by Pew Research Center to date. I’m concerned that pre-teen and teen girls aren’t going after that special someone because they’re worried about social and social media pressures.
I feel like they’re pushing their crushes aside because they think they’ll be ridiculed for making their feelings known, pursuing someone or looking too clingy. Yes, this fear of being ridiculed or worrying about if he/she likes you back goes back centuries, but in today’s world where we spend so much distracting ourselves with “things” and “busyness,” it’s an even stronger phenomenon.
And when it comes to more serious things like sex and break-ups, it’s even more important that we’re there for guidance and support.
Because after high school, they may not come to us as much for this kind of stuff!
What happens if it all gets broadcast - like every other little detail of their lives – on the big screen; via social media? Having a daughter that doesn’t want to date in high school to some may like a parent’s dream.
Throughout the author's 13 year Rabbinical career, he has been asked numerous questions - in person, via email, text message, Skype, ambush, and on the subway.
Our kids are not learning the skill of pushing through good ol’ fashioned awkward face-to-face conversations, disappointment or ridicule.
I’m also worried that social media and peer pressure are putting too much emphasis on looking cool and being perfect.
They should learn that it’s okay to make mistakes and take risks.
They should learn to say “Who cares what people think? And they shouldn’t be afraid to look foolish for going after something (or someone) they want!
It’s all here in one convenient volume that’s as entertaining as it is informative.