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But the story of any good relationship is more complex than that. Sometimes a guy will do one or two things you can’t stand, but at the same time he’ll do things that make him irreplaceable and make you want to hold him tight forever.
People think when we talk about standards, we mean: Don’t settle for anything less than perfect. Anyone could see that such a formula would be disastrous, if by perfect we mean ‘someone who will make me happy ALL the time, believe exactly what I believe, and do what I would do in every situation’.
The point is: Your lifestyles don’t have to be the same, but they do have to be compatible.
If either of you feels like spending time with the other person means constantly doing things you don’t want to do, that’s going to build resentment pretty quickly.
If you’re single right now use them to acquire greater understanding of the standards you should look for in a potential partner when you meet one: Question 1: Do I like the way my partner chooses to spend their free time? Not because it’s your business to know every single minute of how your partner spends his day, but because a good deal of his free time is going to be spent with you.
That means if his idea of a relaxing Saturday is to go to a sports bar and get drunk on a weekly basis, or sit home and play Xbox all weekend, when all you want to do is read books and go to the gym, after a while this conflict will grate on you (or him).
In any great relationship you’ll be able to say YES to at least eighty percent of these.
If on the other hand, you’re answering NO to more than half of them, then you are probably looking at a partnership that is going to crumble in the long-term.
I want to target these nine areas now and lay out a general diagnostic approach for figuring out how to apply these standards in the form of some simple “Yes” or “No” questions.
But small differences can be made up for by two people who want to please each other and understand how they can make the other happy sexually.
Most minor imbalances can be solved if both partners value teamwork and want to please each other.
Anyone who has been in a serious relationship knows that relationships are not about eliminating conflict, but about managing it.
How do you decide then, whether your partner is meeting the standards of the person you should be with in the long-term?
This is article #26 to be published on the Get The Guy blog from my brother Stephen. In this week’s article, Steve poses 9 probing questions to see if your guy is right for you.